Psychotherapist London
Thinking & Writing
On psychotherapy, the inner life, and the work of change.
Complex PTSD: When the Trauma Never Ended
Vietnam, and what PTSD was built to describe Post-traumatic stress disorder came into general use after Vietnam. The picture it was built to describe is a …
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Living With an Alcoholic
If you are frightened for your safety right now, do not wait for a therapy appointment. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is 0808 2000 247, free and …
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Male Eating Disorders: UK Statistics
Reliable figures on eating disorders in men are scarce, scattered and often misquoted. This page gathers the numbers I trust enough to use in my own clinical …
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The Loneliness of the CEO
The situations described here are composited and altered. None corresponds to an identifiable person. It is a cliché that it is lonely at the top. Like many …
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After Detox: When the Real Treatment Begins
If you have just finished a detox, a medically supervised withdrawal, a stay in a clinic, you have done something difficult and you deserve to be proud of it. …
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Prayer, Anger and Forgiveness: What Changes When You Pray
I want to write about prayer, and I want to do it as a clinician, not a preacher. Because in twenty-five years of working with addiction, I have watched prayer …
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The Oedipus Complex Reconsidered: The First Rejection
When people hear “Oedipus complex” they think of the Freudian caricature: the little boy who wants to sleep with his mother. I do not work with that, and to be …
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Men's Mental Health Month: Beyond the Moustache
Every November, Men’s Mental Health Month arrives with its moustaches and its campaigns, and for one month the statistics get repeated. They deserve repeating. …
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The Father Wound: A Wound in Becoming
I have written elsewhere that the mother wound is a wound in being. The father wound is its counterpart: a wound in becoming. To see why, you need Jung’s three …
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